“I think a big reason many girls shy away from calling themselves feminists is that they’re worried they won’t be able to live up to this idea of a Strong Woman, and that there’s no room in this club for anyone who isn’t 100% comfortable with herself all the time. You can totally be a feminist who has insecurities. Feminism isn’t about pretending we all feel like Wonder Woman, it’s about being honest when we don’t, and having the conversation on why that is.”—Tavi Gevinson, Rookie (via wewantrevolutiongirlstylenow)
We use the term “ally” for someone who is truly supportive of the survivor. Often people in the survivor’s life are trying to be helpful, but are doing so in ways that don’t feel helpful or supportive to the survivor. Examples: encouraging the survivor to “leave it in the past,” trying to “cheer up” a survivor who is feeling sad or angry, or attempting to have the survivor view the abuse as less painful because “it could have been worse.” These strategies: denial, avoidance, and minimization are commonly used by survivors and those trying to “help,” but they interfere with the process of true healing.
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Cultural appropriation is the taking on elements of other cultures and removing these elements from their original cultural context and ending up assigning different meanings and significance to them… that is to say you twist a cultural…
You believed in the Tooth Fairy once, and Santa. You believed that your parents weren’t people, they were parents, and regular-person rules didn’t apply to them. You believed your heart was shattered for good, and you’d never love again. But you learned, you grew, you changed, and your beliefs changed with you.
It’s time to outgrow the belief that we are somehow inferior because we don’t look a certain way, wear certain things, live certain lives. It’s time to laugh it off when a magazine tells us we need to firm up and slim down, no matter how firm or slim we might already be. It’s time to focus on ourselves, as we are, instead of the selves that somebody else thinks we should be.
Because the secret is out: There is nothing wrong with us. Not a single, solitary thing.